Friendships

Value that is found in friendships is often the result of a friend demonstrating the following on a consistent basis:

*Mutual compassion
*Mutual understanding
*the tendency to desire what is best for the other sympathy and empathy
honesty, perhaps in situations where it may be difficult for others to speak the truth, especially in terms of pointing out the perceived faults of one's counterpart

So Wikipedia says right? Ok so it's clear that I am a friend. I may not always be able to go and help or do everything I want for my friends but I have the compassion down. I was thinking about this recently. I have tons of friends, people from high school even people from elementary school that I still talk to. Sure I may not know everything there is to know about them but that's part of life isn't it? With every friendship there comes a time when the "ship" it self will sail. Not meaning you won't keep in contact or stop caring about that person but y'all just grow apart. Meet new friends to put into your circle, which isn't at all a bad thing. Not in my eyes.

Let's break this down:
Types of friendships

Best friend (or close friend): a person(s) with whom someone shares extremely strong interpersonal ties with as a friend.

Acquaintance: a friend, but sharing of emotional ties isn't present. An example would be a coworker with whom you enjoy eating lunch or having coffee, but would not look to for emotional support.

Soulmate: the name given to someone who is considered the ultimate, true, and eternal half of the other's soul, in which the two are now and forever meant to be together.

Pen pal: people who have a relationship via postal correspondence. They may or may not have met each other in person and may share either love, friendship, or simply an acquaintance between each other.

Internet friendship: a form of friendship or romance which takes place over the Internet.

Casual relationship or "Friends with benefits": the sexual or near-sexual and emotional relationship between two people who don't expect or demand to share a formal romantic relationship.

Cross-sex friendship is one that is defined by a person having a friend of the opposite sex: a male who has a female friend, or a female who has a male friend.

Spiritual friendship: the Buddhist ideal of kalyana-mitra, that is a relationship between friends with a common interest, though one person may have more knowledge and experience than the other. The relationship is the responsibility of both friends and both bring something to it

I have all these types of friends...but only me, myself and I truly know EVERYTHING that's going on with me. Why? If I trust my friends and care about them and they care about me? Maybe it's because I don't want them to every think I make mistakes in life? HA, no that's not it..hmm? I guess it comes down to somethings should be up to me to figure out. Whatever the reason I can stand up and say I AM A GOOD FRIEND. I unconditionally love my friends. Even the sides that aren't nice or pretty I still care about them and want to be their for them. Being a friend is hard work you know. Why would anyone throw away a friendship? Why would you let them?

This post may not make any sense and maybe I just wanted to type what is going on in my head but bottom line. If you call someone a friend, make sure you demonstrate the term correctly.

I love music...

I know a lot of people claim to like all types of music or to enjoying listening to new things and I'm not saying it's not true but for me the words couldn't be more the truth. Music is, the soundtrack of my life...(insert corny looks here)
I use to be pretty good at reading it and tickling the ivory if you will...(grimace) But listening and singing along. My whole mood can change from hopeless to hopeful in 3:53 with help from Fly Like A Bird

Fly like a bird
Take to the sky
I need You now Lord
Carry me high
Don't let the world break me tonight
I need the strength of You by my side
Sometimes this life can be so cold
I pray You'll come and carry me home

Music is a beautiful creation, an art form of sound. Different pitches, melody and harmony, rhythm. The tempo, the dynamics, and the texture of the songs..just it's storytelling at it's best. And oh do I love to listen and sing along. I think I annoy some of my friends with it. And when I discover new music. I get so excited I want to share it with everyone. Even if I know it's not their taste of music. I want them to hear it give it a try. A taste test if you will. I could go on forever listing off songs that have been important stamps in my life but for now I'll just say if your stressed at work, or having hard times at home. Put your head phones on, press play and listen and sing. See if your mood doesn't change.

Once upon a time
We swore not to say goodbye
Something got a hold of us
And we changed
And you sat alone in pride
And I sat at home and cried
How'd our fairytale just end up this way

We went round for round
Til' we knocked love out
We were laying in the ring
Not making a sound
And if thats a metaphor of you and I
Why is it so hard to say goodbye?

I can't wait to hate you
Make you pain like I do
Still can't shake you off
I can't wait to break through these emotional changes
Seems like such a loss cause
I can't wait to face you
Break you down so low that theres no place left to go
I can't wait to hate you

This was a love that no one I know could explain
And I wish I could press reset and feel that feeling again
I sit and press rewind
And watch us every night
Want to pause it but I can't make it stay

We went round for round
Til' we knocked love out
We were laying in the ring
Not making a sound
And if thats a metaphor of you and I
Why is it so hard to say goodbye?

I can't wait to hate you
Make you pain like I do
Still can't shake you off
I can't wait to break through these emotional changes
Seems like such a loss cause
I can't wait to face you
Break you down so low that theres no place left to go
I can't wait to hate you

No need to call my phone
Because I changed my number today
A matter fact I think im moving away (away)
Sorry the frustrations got me feelin this way
And I just keep having one last thing to say
And I just want to hold you, touch you, feel you
be near you, I miss you baby baby (baby baby)
I am tired of tryin to fake through
But there is nothing I can do
Boy I can't wait to hate you

I can't wait to hate you
Make you pain like I do
Still can't shake you off
I can't wait to break these emotional changes
Seems like such a loss cause I can't wait to face you
Break you down so low theres no place left to go
I can't wait to hate you baby
I can't wait to hate you baby



For: Ray

Mending...

Everyone says that love hurts. But is it true? I mean the loneliness hurts, rejection hurts, losing someone hurts, but are we confusing that with love? The reality of it might just be that LOVE is the only thing that covers up all the pain and makes you feel right again. I was in love. Madly, deeply, foolishly, unconditionally in love. 11 years. I don't know when I fell out of love with him. It's scary losing someone after all that time. Even scarier being alone. After the split I thought I'd never stop crying. Even if I was having a great day, when the sun would disappear for the night, the tears would just flow. Almost like if they were on a timer I had no control over. 7 months later and I still wonder why couldn't we be what we both needed?

I cried today,
Not because I missed you,
or even wanted you.
But because I finally realized,
I'm gonna be alright without you

25 Things Every Man Should Know...

Please listen to me. Not because what I’m about to say will rock your world, but because listening is a sign of respect that rocks my world.

Women speak a different dialect than men. For example, “I’m fine” means, “I’m so not fine.” Just as “No dessert for me” means “I’ll be polishing off yours”

Remember PMS stands for physical and mental stress. So let me cry freely, behave irrationally and eat your dessert. My mood swings are hormonal, not personal.

Manicures and pedicures are a women’s gift to her man. I love looking pretty for you. The time to worry is when I stop going for them.

Always tell me when I look hot; never tell me when I don’t. And don’t forget I need 20 compliments to offset one thoughtless remark.

I remember the shirt you were wearing when you first said “I love you” the fact that you don’t makes me question whether or not you really meant it.

I loved you long before I told you. Playing the long game is in a women’s DNA. We don’t throw a hail mary in first quarter. (And you thought we didn’t know football)

Of course you’re the best lover I’ve ever had. All others cease to exist when I fall in love.

I’ll never tell you my true number. Never, never, never! Besides, see # 8

I read your horoscope every day.

I secretly delight when someone slips up and call us Mr. and Mrs.

Spontaneously kiss my neck from behind and I might let you stay back there for a while.

Yes, my girlfriend knows what we did last night. We share everything, including that.

Make me laugh and I’m happy. Laugh at yourself and I’m all yours.

A little jealousy is good. If (a) no kneecaps are broken and (b) you don’t cross examine me to exhaustion. The right balance shows you care and it’s even flattering.

I don’t withhold sex to punish you. Sometimes I just need to be left alone but at the same time, not left alone. And no I can’t explain it.

I can, will and do fake it.

I love sex. With or without you, as Bono might say, "My mind is filthier than you might think."

You are irresistible: freshly showered, doing something sporty or strenuous, smiling, charming an old lady, suited, reading, playing video games, DIY-ing, being a nerd.

“Do you want flowers?” Kills the romantic gesture. Don’t ask, just do it.

I’ll probably be late – because I’m preening for you. At least that’s how I reason. My reasoning skills are phenomenal!

If you cheat, I may not break up with you. But you’ll wish I had.

I once kissed a girl and liked the taste of her cherry ChapStick. No, I didn’t. That’s your fantasy. Sincerely sorry.

Here’s how to fix what you’re doing wrong in bed. When you go slow, go slower. When you go fast, go faster.

I feel lucky to have you, and I hope you feel the same. You can’t have it all unless you have someone to share it with.